TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".




NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.



CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.




NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..




RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..



BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"

The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

LOVE IS....... LIKE THIS

Hare Krishna Hare Krishna..

Love Marriage VS Arranged Marriage(The IT Perspective)

Love Marriage:
Resembles procedural programming language. We have some set functions
like flirting, going to movies together, making long conversations on
phone and then try to fit all functions to the candidate we like.

Arranged Marriage:
Similar to object oriented programming approach. We first fix the
candidate and then try to implement functions on her. The main object
is fixed and various functions are added to supplement the main
program. The functions can be added or deleted.


Love Marriage: It is a
throwaway type of prototype as client requirements rises with time thus
it is a dynamic system and difficult to maintain.
Arranged Marriage
: Requirements are well defined so use of waterfall model is possible.


Love Marriage: Family system hangs because hardware called parents are not responding.
Arranged Marriage: Compatible with hardware Parents.


Love Marriage: You are the project leader so u are responsible for implementation and execution of PROJECT- married life.
Arranged Marriage: You are a team member under project leader parents so they are responsible for successful execution of project Married life.


Love Marriage
: Client expectations include exciting feature as spouse cooking food, washing clothes etc.
Arranged Marriage: All these features are covered in the SRS as required features.


Love Marriage: Acceptance test possible you can try before you Buy.
Arranged Marriage: Product is sold on an as is where is basis, Product once sold will not be taken back!

Two Birds...

There was once a lonely girl who longed desperately for love. One day while she was walking in the woods she found two starving song birds. She took them home and put them in a small glided cage. She nurtured them with love and the birds grew strong. Every morning they greeted her with a marvellous song. The girl felt great love for the birds. She wanted their singing to last forever.

One day the girl left the door to the cage open. The larger and stronger of the two birds flew from the cage. The girl watched anxiously as he circled high above her. She was so frightened that he would fly away and she would never see him again that as he flew close, she grasped at him wildly. She caught him in her fist. She clutched him tightly within her hand. Her heart gladened at her sucess in capturing him. Suddenly she felt the bird go limp. She opened her hand stared in horror at the dead bird. Her desperate clutching love had killed him.

She noticed the other bird teteering on the edge of the cage. She could feel his great need for freedom. His need to soar into the clear, blue sky. She lifted him from the cage and tossed him softly into the air. The bird circled once, twice, three times. The girl watched delighted at the bird's enjoyment. Her heart was no longer concerned with her loss. She wanted the bird to be happy. Suddenly the bird flew closer and landed softly on her shoulder. It sang the sweetest melody, she had ever heard.

The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it -- WINGS!

KAHANI...

Waqt NE sari kahani hi badal dali,

Pyar ka naam Jo aata hai to Dar lagta hai,

Zakham kuch aise bhi apno NE diye hai mujhko,

AB koi haath milata hai to Dar lagta hai........

Remedy for Teeth Whitening..

Smile is one of the first things people notice about you. Yellow
or brown teeth are not the best first impression you want to make.
Teeth can become discolored for a number of reasons, the most common
being tobacco, coffee, tea, berries, and the natural accumulation of tartar over time.

Other reasons for discoloration of teeth may be internal reasons
such as by aging, injury, excessive fluoride, and by certain illnesses
and medicines. Discoloration is natural over time.

Tooth whitening can have fantastic affects on
your appearance, as well as giving your self-esteem a big boost. Tooth
whitening is safe, convenient, and can change the overall appearance of
your smile in a matter of hours.

In the adult there are thirty-two permanent teeth. The first of
these, which grow in below, begin to come through when a child is six
or seven years old. These permanent teeth usually replace the deciduous
teeth. By the time a person is twenty-five he should have all his
teeth. By the time a person is twenty-five he should have all his
teeth. The condition of his teeth will largely depend on his diet, and
on the kind of care he has given the teeth during his growing years.

Some teeth seem to be defective from the start owing to hereditary factors.

A clean mouth contributes toward an attractive personality and a
happy disposition. An unsanitary mouth usually arises from years of
neglect.

HOME REMEDIES FOR TEETH WHITENING

• Take some foil and fold it to form to your teeth. Take a little toothpaste and baking soda
  and mix together really well. Put some of the mixture into the foil and
  place on your teeth. Leave on for one-hour everyday. Brush teeth
  normally afterwards. This is an effective home remedy for teeth whitening.
  
• Brush your teeth with wood ash. It is good teeth whitener.
  
• Mash some strawberries in a bowl and use this to brush your teeth, just as you use toothpaste. It whitens really well
  
• Every time you brush, add baking soda to your toothpaste. Within 14 days your teeth will become visibly whiter
  
• Good nutritious diet is very effective in maintaining the
  dental health. Eating fresh crunchy veggies and fruits such as:
  carrots, broccoli, celery, apples, strawberries, and cucumbers can help
  whiten your teeth.
• Each time after brushing your teeth just gargle with a small
  capsule of peroxide, concentrating it on your teeth (don't swallow),
  and rinse thoughroly with water.
• Another home remedy for teeth whitening is - Take your wet toothbrush, put baking soda on it, then put a dab of lemon juice on it (the baking soda will begin to fizz) brush your teeth with it. Rinse with water
  
• Rub the inside of an orange peel on the teeth.
  
• Prepare a paste by adding equal parts lemon juice and salt and apply to yellowing spots.
  
• Make a paste by grinding dried bay leaves and dried orange peels and adding a little water. Use as a teeth whitener.
  
• Rubbing the bark of walnut tree brightens the teeth.
  
• For tooth whitening, brush your teeth properly and eat the right food to keep your teeth healthy.
  
• It is also wise to note that eating sweet snacks between meals affect teeth more than eating sweet snacks with meals.
  
• Brush your outer and inner surfaces at 45-degree angle. On
  chewing surfaces, hold the brush flat and brush back and forth. On
  inside surfaces of front teeth, tilt brush vertically and use gentle up
  and won strokes with toe of the brush.
• Do not brush after every meal. It will affect the enamel.
  
• Avoid sticky sweets like toffee or hard candies like mints.
  Try to rinse your mouth quickly after you drink anything with strong
  color such as coffee and red wine.
• Chew a piece of sugarless gum after you've had your coffee or tea. This is also an effective home remedy for teeth whitening.
  
• Avoid smoking.
  
• Teeth should be properly brushed at least twice a day to maintain good dental health.
  
• Brushing should be done in the direction in which they are
  growing; the upper teeth should be brushed downward, and the lower
  teeth should be brushed from below, upward.
• Use a sweeping motion, being sure that the bristles reach
  the crevices between the teeth, thus helping to remove any food
  particles that may have lodged there.
• Add a drop of clove oil to the toothpaste and brush.

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