Thursday, July 31, 2008

Insaan sa kyon hai ...

yeh sheher agar sheher hai to sunsan sa kyon hai
is sheher ka har shakhs pareshan sa kyon hai
is sheher ke log jise kehte hain masiha
woh shakhs mere dard se anjaan sa kyon hai
mitti se bana hai to mera kyon nahi ho jata
agar pather ka sanam hai to insaan sa kyon hai ...

Dost kahkar dost se daga kar baitha..

Dost kahkar dost se daga kar baitha
Wo aaj ek aisi khata kar baitha..

Kehta tha ke tuje kabhi hum khafa hone na denge
Fir wo khud hi hume khafa kar baitha..

Aadat thi use sabki ghamo ko dur karne ki lekin
Humare liye hi wo ghumo ki dua kar baitha..

Main lafzon se kuch bhi izhaar nahi karta..

Main lafzon se kuch bhi izhaar nahi karta..
Iska matlab ye nahi ke main us se pyaar nahi karta...

Chahta hu main use aaj bhi..
Par uski soch mein apna waqt bekaar nahi karta...

Tamasha na ban jaye kahin mohabbat meri..
Isliye apne dard ka izhaar nahi karta...

Jo kuch mila hai usi mein khush hu main..
Uske liye khuda se taqrar nahi karta...

Par kuch to baat hai uski baaton mein..
Varna use chahne ki khata baar baar nahi karta....

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

LOVE STORY OF A BLIND GIRL..

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.
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One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, "now that you can see the world, will you marry me?" The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him.
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Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying..... "Just take care of my eyes dear." i'll always love you forever..
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**LoVe Is GoD**

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Domestic Violence: A Violation of Human Rights

"Violence against women is perhaps the most shameful human rights violation. And it is perhaps the most pervasive. It knows no boundaries of geography, culture or wealth. As long as it continues, we cannot claim to be making real progress towards equality, development and peace."

-Kofi Annan, Secretary-General of the United Nations

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The concept of human rights evolved largely from ideas of western political theory about rights of individuals to autonomy and freedom. Thus the international human rights law evolved to protect individuals' autonomy vis-a-vis the state. And, it held states responsible for individual rights and accountable for abuse of those rights.

The development of human rights has been expressed in terms of 'generations': The civil and political rights, as the first generation rights; economic, social and cultural rights as the second generation rights; and the group or people's rights, which are recently defined as the third generation rights.

Indeed the development of human rights movement, right from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948), and the three generations of rights show that rights are defined as 'belonging to all human beings' irrespective of gender. However, though international law is gender neutral in theory, in practice it constituted men and women into separate spheres of existence - public and private, respectively. Thus men exist as public, legal entities that enjoy civil and political rights and in a way define the nature of rights discourse. Women's existence, on the other hand, is "privatized", thus, seen as existing outside the purview of the state's obligation.

Often women's exclusion from the human rights practice and discourse, their relegation to the private, has been justified on grounds of social and cultural specificity of region or a group. Thus, social and cultural norms, which become grounds for respective states' consistent relegation of women to private sphere, results in international law being either reinforcing or replicating exclusion of women's human rights abuses from the public sphere. The effects of this public/private divide in the international law are more evident in domestic violence, which literally happens in the private. Many laws are gender neutral, however, their application is gender biased. (Agnes, 1988)

Moreover the economic and social context of its (laws) application had not been considered seriously by both the governmental and at the same time non-governmental organizations, all over the world.

Harms suffered by women at the hands of private individuals or within the family had been placed outside of the conceptual framework of international human rights. Feminists have argued that a failing of international human rights norms is in not recognizing the 'gendered' consequences of their application they render invisible particular problems suffered by women.

Moreover, in addition to holding states responsible for taking action against the human rights abuses occurring in the private sphere, feminist human rights thinkers argued that domestic violence should be conceived as a form of torture. They aver that though torture with cases of disappearance and murder, is widely recognized as a core violation of human rights, that inequality on the basis of Sex is widely condemned, why is torture on basis of sex in the form of rape, domestic battering and pornography not seen as a violation of human rights?

The feminist analysis examines characteristics of domestic violence, in the light of international legal understanding, of what constitutes' torture and cruelty, the inhuman and degrading treatment it entails. They affirm that process, purposes, and consequences of torture and that of domestic violence are startlingly similar. That whether torture committed in domestic context or that inflicted officially, does not reduce its intensity of violence, nor does it demand different standards of judgments and actions on part of state.

The existing international human rights instruments, has both a separate provision for women's rights (i.e. Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women, CEDAW), and other general mechanisms which stressed formal equality of women and men. While this development is important, it is not adequate to address issue of women's subordination. Recently, non-governmental organizations have begun to document women's abuse within the context of traditional human rights law. (Mathur, 2004)

These efforts are based on and addressed within that framework of whose 'very structure is built on the silence of women'. The fundamental problem women face is not discriminatory treatment vis-a-vis men. Rather it is necessary to raise a larger problem: that, women are in inferior position because they have no power either in public or private worlds, or in international human rights law. Thus problem of domestic abuse as a human rights issue will have to be seen as a part of larger reality of subordination of women their powerlessness in terms of defining the human rights discourse.

The signs of domestic violence

Destructive criticism and verbal abuse shouting/mocking/ accusing/name calling/verbally threatening.

* Pressure tactics: sulking, threatening to withhold money, disconnect the telephone, take the car away, commit suicide, take the children away, report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with his demands regarding bringing up the children, lying to your friends and family about you, telling you that you have no choice in any decisions.

* Disrespect: persistently putting you down in front of other people, not listening or responding when you talk, interrupting your telephone calls, taking money from your purse without asking, refusing to help with childcare or housework.

* Breaking trust: lying to you, withholding information from you, being jealous, having other relationships, breaking promises and shared agreements.

* Isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls, telling you where you can and cannot go, preventing you from seeing friends and relatives.

* Harassment: following you, checking up on you, opening your mail, repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you, embarrassing you in public.

* Threats: making angry gestures, using physical size to intimidate, shouting you down, destroying your possessions, breaking things, punching walls, wielding a knife or a gun, threatening to kill or harm you and the children.

* Sexual violence: using force, threats or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts, having sex with you when you don't want to have sex, any degrading treatment based on your sexual orientation.

* Physical violence: punching, slapping, hitting, biting, pinching, kicking, pulling hair out, pushing, shoving, burning, strangling.

* Denial: saying the abuse doesn't happen, saying you caused the abusive behaviour, being publicly gentle and patient, crying and begging for forgiveness, saying it will never happen again.


Four types of cruelty are dealt with by this law:

* Conduct that is likely to drive a woman to suicide,
* Conduct which is likely to cause grave injury to the life, limb or health of the woman,
* Harassment with the purpose of forcing the woman or her relatives to give some property, or
* Harassment because the woman or her relatives is unable to yield to demands for more money or does not give some property.

What are the forms of "cruelty" recognised by the Courts?

* Persistent denial of food,
* Insisting on perverse sexual conduct,
* Constantly locking a woman out of the house,
* Denying the woman access to children, thereby causing mental torture,
* Physical violence
* Taunting, demoralising and putting down the woman with the intention of causing mental torture,
* Confining the woman at home and not allowing her normal social intercourse,
* Abusing children in their mother's presence with the intention of causing her mental torture,
* Denying the paternity of the children with the intention of inflicting mental pain upon the mother, and
* Threatening divorce unless dowry is given.

What is a "matrimonial home"?

What rights do women have in their matrimonial home?

The matrimonial home is the household a woman shares with her husband; whether it is rented, officially provided, or owned by the husband or his relatives. A woman has the right to remain in the matrimonial home along with her husband as long as she is married, though there is no definite law regarding this right. If a woman is being pressurised to leave the matrimonial home, she can ask the Court for an injunction or "restraining order" protecting her from being thrown out.

This can usually be obtained quite easily. It is generally advisable not to leave the matrimonial home; it is easier to get a court order preventing a woman being thrown out than to get an order enforcing her right to return to it once she has left or been thrown out.

What is an 'Injunction' and how does it apply to domestic violence cases?

An injunction is a court order directing a person to do or not to do something. A woman has a lot of flexibility regarding what she can request the Court to order. For instance, if she is being stalked by somebody (including her husband), she can obtain injunctions against the person coming near her home or place of work, or even telephoning her.

What can a woman do to prevent domestic violence?

One option is to get the woman's husband to execute a "bond to keep peace", or a "bond of good behaviour "through the Executive, Magistrate who can order the husband to put a stop to domestic violence. The husband can also be asked to deposit securities (i.e. money or property) that will be forfeited if he continues to act violently.

Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005

- Recognition of the right to residence

- Provision for the appointment of Protection officers and the recognition of Service Providers

- Training for Protection Officers and Judges

- Awareness creation

- Budgetary allocation


Implementation of laws

To make the laws concerning women the state needs to strengthen the machinery for their implementation. Important steps in this regard are:

* Appointment and empowerment of statutory authorities at the central and state levels.

* Preparation of policy statements by such statutory authorities enclosing clear guidelines on the manner of implementation of the law such as code of conduct to be followed by functionaries, provision of best practices, etc.

* Evaluation and auditing the effectiveness of particular laws and the periodic publication and submission of compliance reports

* Upgrading the quality of statistics maintained on women. Each statutory body to conduct yearly surveys in their particular field.

* Building capacity of the functionaries appointed under the law such as statutory authorities, police personnel, health personnel, counselors, etc by conducting regular trainings on the law including aspects of gender sensitisation as well as improving practices followed by them.

* Introducing mechanisms to ensure quicker and simpler procedures for women to obtain legal redress to their problems. This would include the provision of legal aid, assistance at the time of registering complaints, making applications, provision of information on the legal options available to the women etc.

* Raising awareness of the services and support available to women facing discrimination, from both governmental and non governmental sources.

* Ensuring adequate representation of women in statutory advisory bodies/ policy making bodies.

* Sustained interactions between different governmental agencies to promote multi agency working.

* Allocation of adequate budgets for the proper functioning of the statutory authorities.

* Constant monitoring and auditing of accounts by a central authority.

* Submission of financial reports to the Auditor General for it to be placed before on the floor of the Parliament or State Legislature as the case may be.

Conclusion:

There is a need for an affirmative action to protect girls, young and elderly women from domestic violence and establish human rights for women. It must address the following areas of intervention.

1 – Improve Women's Economic Capacities: Improve women's access to and control of income and assets, recognize women's shared right to the family home, and incorporate the principle of division of community property in divorce laws. Productive assets and property are critical to strengthening the economic and social status of women, providing income opportunities and improved respect for women outside marriage and family.

2 – Strengthen and expand Training and sensitization Programs: Programme designed to train, sensitize and inter-link those working at critical entry points to identify and treat abused women should be a priority, with one aim being increased accountability across institutions. Such programmes should be tailored for medical personnel, the judiciary, counseling and other support service providers.

3 – Effective use of the Media to build Public Awareness: Mobilisation of communities around campaigns such as that for "Zero Tolerance of Violence" requires improved skills and capacity among NGOs to enter new forms of dialogue with journalists and media personnel to heighten awareness of human rights and their significance for addressing domestic violence.

4 – Programmes designed for the batterers: must be introduced in both the state and voluntary sectors. In order to promote a holistic approach to prevention as well as intervention, the deficiency in programmes designed for men needs to be addressed.

5 – Addressing Domestic Violence through Education: Prevention of domestic violence ultimately depends upon changing the norms of society regarding violence as means of conflict resolution and traditional attitudes about gender. To achieve this, there must be introduction of gender and human rights in the curricula of schools, universities, professional colleges, and other training colleges. Along with this, there must be recognition and commitment to the principle of free compulsory primary and secondary education for girls.

6– Dilaasa model of one stop crisis centre housed in the public hospital to facilitate collective intervention of medical staff, police and NGO must be replicated throughout the country.

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References :
- Agnes, Flavia "Our Fight Against Wife beating" in Rehana Ghadially Women in Indian
Society-A Reader, Sage Publications, Delhi, 1988.
- CWDS Crimes Against Women: Bondage and Beyond Centre for Women's Development
Studies, New Delhi, 2002.
- ICRW Domestic Violence in India: A Summary Report of a Multi-site Household Survey, New Delhi, 2004.
- Jagori "Didn't We Ban It 40 Years Ago?" (2003), New Delhi www.jagori.org.in
- Lohia, Shaila " Domestic Violence in Rural Areas", in Shirin Kudchedkar and Sabiha al-Issa Violence Against Women and Women Against Violence, Pencraft International, Delhi, 1998.
- Mathur, Kanchan Countering Gender Violence: Initiatives Towards Collective Action in Rajasthan Thousand Oaks (California), Sage Publications, London. 2004.
- Jaising, Indira (Ed.) Law of Domestic Violence: A User's Manual for Women, The Lawyers Collective, Delhi, 200 I.
- Patel, Vibhuti Women's Challenges of the New Millennium, Gyan Publications, Delhi, 2002.

Life is like a train journey...

Life is like a train journey. You have a long way to go. You must learn to make your journey comfortable. Do not carry heavy and unwanted luggage with you. That will make the journey miserable. Similarly, do not indulge in fault-finding and picking quarrels with others. Don't desire to have the best things for yourselves only. Share with others around, the good things you are given. Anger, hatred, envy, jealousy, these are the heavy luggage I ask you avoid taking with you in the journey..

Monday, July 28, 2008

What is maturity?

What is maturity? Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. Maturity is patience. It is the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of the long-term gain. Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging set-backs. Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse. Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, "I was wrong." And, when right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, "I told you so."

Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities; then they do nothing.

Maturity means dependability, keeping one's word, coming through in a crisis. The immature are masters of the alibi. They are the confused and the disorganized. Their lives are a maze of broken promises, former friends, unfinished business, and good intentions that somehow never materialize.

Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which we cannot change, the courage to change that which should be changed -- and the wisdom to know the difference.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Care for..

Care for the One, who shares with you….
Share with the One, who knows you…
Know the One, who misses you…

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

NEVER LIE TO YOUR MOM...

A Mom comes to visit her son Kumar for dinner.....who lives with a girl roommate Sunita. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but notice how pretty Kumar's roommate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between the two, and this had only made her more curious.

Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between Kumar and his roommate than met the eye.


Reading his mom's thoughts, Kumar volunteered, "I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you, Sunita and I are just roommates". About a week later, Sunita came. She said to Kumar ,saying, "Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver plate. I don't believe she took it, do you?"
Kumar said ,"Well, I doubt it, but I'll email her, just to be sure."


So he sat down and wrote :

Dear Mother:

I'm not saying that you 'did' take the silver plate from my house, I'm not saying that you 'did not' take the silver plate .. But the fact remains that it has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love, Kumar..



Several days later, Kumar received an email from his Mother

Dear Son:

I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Sunita, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Sunita. But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her OWN bed, she would have found the silver plate by now under the pillow...

Love,

Mom.



Lesson of the day:


Don't Lie to Your Mother........

Karan johar ka kamal..

Boy : Janeman! Tute huye dil se pyaar karogi ya dil tutne tak pyaar karogi.

Girl : Haramkhor! Tuti huye chappal se pitega ya chappal tutne tak pitega.

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Karan johar ka kamal

Kuch kuch hota hai : Luv ur friends
K3g : Luv ur parents
Kal ho na ho : Luv ur neighbours
Kabhi alvida na kehna : Luv other's wife.

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Mil giya Oye mil gaya,
Oye oye mil giya,
Oho mil giya,
Ballay Ballay…
Mil he giya,
Aaj to mil he giya,
Yeh sms phadne wala ek aur bewqoof mil gaya!!!

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Ek bacha paida hotay hi nurse say bola: Mobile hai?

Nurse: Kya karo gay?

Bacha: GOD ko miss call deni hay kye khariat say pohanch gaya hoon
.

Dard( Shayari)..

Khule pade hain meri zindagi ke sare warq
Na jane kab koi aandhi uda ke le jaaye

Kisi ka dard kahan tak main apne pass rakhoon
Ye jis ka hai woh nishani bata ke le jaye.........!!!

Tonic for the Mind - 34

Sincere devotion and love for the Guru and Lord invokes the grace to achieve and lead a fulfilling life. Love directed towards the greater, higher and nobler, brings out the best in a person. Expand in your love to feel equally for everyone's suffering; be joyous in everybody's joy. Love is natural in each one of us. It does not have to be created, it has to be just discovered and once it is discovered, it is so great and vast, that it embraces the entire humanity.

- Swami Chinmayananda

Tonic for the Mind - 33

Vedanta roars declaring its living experiences- ''Seek Oh Man, what you want where it can be had. Infinite peace and eternal joy is thy very essential nature. Adjust your inward life and tickle out of it the music of perfection which you are trying to knock out of the rocky earth".

- Swami Chinmayananda

FUN : Shaadi ( Shyari)

abhi shaadi ka pehla hi saal tha,
khushi ke maare mera bura haal tha,
khushiyaan kuch yoon umad rahin thi,
ki sambhale nahi sambhal rahi thi,
subah subah madam ka chai le kar aana
thoda sharmate hue hume neend se jagana,
wo pyaar bhara hath humare ballon main phirana,
muskurate hue kehna ki darling chai to pi lo,
jaldi se ready ho jao, aap ko office bhi hai jana.
gharwali bhagwan ka roop le kar aayi thi,
dil or dimag par poori tarah chhai thi,
saans bhi lete the to naam usi ka hota tha,
ik pal bhi door jeena dushwar hota tha.


5 saal baad........

subah subah madam ka chai le kar aana,
table par rakh kar jor se chilana,
aaj office jao to munna ko
school chhodte hue jana..............
ek baar phir wohi awaaj ayi,
kya baat hai abhi tak chhodi nahi chaarpai,
agar munna late ho gaya to dekh lena,
munna ki teachers ko phir khud hi sambhaal lena.
na jane gharwali kaisa roop le kar aayi thi,
dil aur dimaag par kali ghata chhai thi,
sans bhi lete hai to uni ka khayal hota hai,
har samay jehan main ek hi sawal hota hai,
kya kabhi wo din lot ke ayenge,
hum ek bar phir kuwaaren ban payenge..

SMS 4 U ( 23/07/2008)

Beggar: Saab 12 Rs do na coffee peeni hai.
Man: Lekin coffee to 6Rs ki hai?
Beggar: Par Saab girlfrend bhi to hai.
Man: Bhikari hokar bhi GF banali.
Beggar: Na Saab,GF NE Bhikari bana diya!

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Dosti karo college wali se,
Ishq karo office wali se,
Flirt karo pados wali se,
Pyaar karo dilwali se,
Aankh larao sali se,
Aur maar khao ghar wali se.

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Safar lamba hai dost banate rahiye,
Dil mile na mile haath badate rahiye,

Taj na banaiye costly padega,
Har taraf Mumtaj banate rahiye.

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Ravan decides to apologize to Ram.
Ram opens the door.
Ravan blankly stares at Ram & can you guess what he is thinking?
Sala kiss moonh se maafi maangu
.

Birth Control Pills..

An elderly woman went into the doctor's office. When the doctor asked why she was there, she replied, "I'd like to have some birth control pills."

Taken aback, the doctor thought for a minute and then said, "Excuse me, Mrs. Smith, but you're 75 years old. What possible use could you have for birth control pills?"

The woman responded, "They help me sleep better."

The doctor thought some more and continued, "How in the world do birth control pills help you to sleep?"

The woman said, "I put them in my granddaughter's orange juice and I sleep better at night."

SMS of the day.(23/07/2008)

Sometimes in life we think
we don't need anyone,
But sometimes we don't have
anyone when we need someone.
So,hold good peoples around
&
never let your friends go!

Tonic for the Mind - 32

"'Face It". The world will give us experiences,whether we want them or not. We face the world not with our talents, money or body; we face the world with our mind alone, our convictions. We have to use the mind as an elevator to tune our habits to our convictions in order to be the ruler of our experiences; if not the experiences will trample over and crush us. Our convictions guided by faith evokes strength and whenever any experience pulls our mind down, our convictions will help to lift us out.

- Swami Abhedananda

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Shayari - SMS

1 Unki Tasviro Ko Seene Se Laga Lete Hai, Is Tarah Judai Ka Gam Mita Dete Hai, Kisi Tara Kabhi Unka Zikr Ho Jaye To, Bheegi Palko Ko Juka Lete Hai.

2 Ai meri zindagi yu mujhse daga na kar, Use bhul kar zinda rahu ye dua na kar, Koi dekhta hai use to hoti hai taqleef, Ai hawa tu bhi use chua na kar.

3 Karte Rahe Intezaar Har Ghari, A Dil Humne Ye Kaya Kho Diya Uth Gaya Yakeen Wafa Se, Jaane Tumne Wo Waada Kyon Kiya Suraj Nei Hansna Aur Taaron Nei Muskuranaa Chhor Diya Aag Thee Dil Mei Mohabaat Ki, Usney Bee Ab Jalna Chhor Diya

4 Woh Ek Lafz Ki Khushboo Na Rakh Sake Mehfooz Hum Unke Haath Sari Kitaab Kya Dete

5 Intezaar Ke Lamhe Sholey Mein Badalne Lage Hain, Hum Unka Intezaar Karne Lage Hain, Woh Aayi Nahi Abhi Tak Samay Bahot Ho Gaya Hain, Ab To Hum Ghadi Se Bhi Sharminda Ho Gaye Hain

6 Unki Tasviro Ko Seene Se Laga Lete Hai, Is Tarah Judai Ka Gam Mita Dete Hai, Kisi Tara Kabhi Unka Zikr Ho Jaye To, Bheegi Palko Ko Juka Lete Hai.


7 Din Tere Khayal Mein Gujar Jata Hai, Raat Ko Bhi Khayal Tera He Aata Hai. Kabhi Ye Khayal Is Tarah Bad Jaata Hai Ki Aaine Mein Bhi Tera Chehra Nazar Aata Hai.

8 Itna Kuch Khoya Ki Hume Paana Na Aaya, Pyar Kiya To Jatana Na Aaya. Aa Gaye Is Dil Mein Pehli Hi Nazar Mein Who, Kasoor Humara Tha Jo Hume Unke Dil Mein Samana Na Aaya.

9 Hum Na Hote To, Kisi Aur Ke Charche Hote, Na Hota Jo Yeh Ishq, To Koi Aur Gham Ke Bahaane Hote

10 Raat Gumsum Hai Magar Chan Khamosh Nahi, Kaise Keh Du Aaj Fir Hosh Nahi. Aisa Duba Teri Aakho Ki Gehrai Main, Haath Mein Jam Hai Magar Pine Ka Hosh Nahi.

11 Sirf Tum Hi Ho Zindagi Main Par Main Tumhe Pa Nahi Sakta, Rahega Dukh Hamesha Tumhe Na Pane Ka. Par Apni Khushi Ke Liye Tumhe Rula Nahi Sakta.

12 Kuch Bata Pichle Paher Khuwaab Main Aane Wale Kab Woh Din Aayenge Phir Humko Milane Wale

13 Kuch Jane Kuch Pahchane ,Kuch Anjane Se Log Miley, Shayed Main Deewana Mujhko Deeewane Se Log Miley.

14 Hum Wo Nai Jo Bhul Jaya Karte Hai, Hum Wo Hai Jo Nibhaya Karte Hai, Dur Rehke Milna Shyad Mushkil Ho, Par Yad Banke Sason Me Bus Jaya Karte Hai.

15 Har Waqt Muskurana Fitrat Hai Hamari, Aap Yuhin Khush Rahe Hasrat Hai Hamari, Aap Ko Hum Yaad Aaye Na Aaye, Aapko Yad Karna Aadat Hai Hamari

16 Tez Dhadkanoon Ko Sunkar Bhi Tumhe Pyar Ki Khabar Nahi Hoti.... Kya Mehsoos Karoge Tum Dil Ka Dard, Dil Ke Tutne Ki To Awaaz Bhi Nahi Hoti....

17 Dard Mein Dil Ke Muskarane Se Yaad Aaye Kuch Log Purane Se Main To Do Kadam Bhi Nahi Chal Sakta Tu He Aaja Kisi Bahane Se

18 Meri Chaahat Pe Tum Humesha Bharosha Rakhana, Ey Khuda Mere Mehboob Ko Sada Salamat Rakhana, Tere Sapnoko Sanwar Ne Hum Jaroor Aayenge, Bas Aankho Me Humara Intezaar Rakhana

19 Sitaro Ko Ankho Me Mahefus Rakhna Bahot Lambi Raat Hi Raat Hogi....... Musafir Ho Tum Bhi, Musafir He Ham Bhi Kahi Kisi Mod Pe Phir Mulakat Hogi.....

20 Youn Badi Der Se Paimaana Liye Betha Hu, Koi Dekhe To Ye Samjhe K Piye Betha Hu.... Zindagi Bhar K Liye Ruth K Jaane Wale, Mein Abhi Tak Teri Tasveer Liye Bhetha Hu....

21 Jinki Tamanna Dil Mein Thi, Judai Ab Hum Unki Sehte Hain, Fursat Nahi Unhe Humse Baat Karne Ki, Is Liye Hum Har Waqt Khamosh Se Rehte Hain


22 Veeran Hai Dil, Tanhaaiyon Ki Bahar Hai Tere Yandon Ke Kanty, Bas Yahi Kuch Ab Sath Hai Tum Gai Sath Mai Chale Gai Hai Najare Najaro Mai Bas Ab Sirf Tera Intzaar Hai

23 Gam Bade Aate Hain..Katil Ki Nighaahon Ki Tarah, Tum Chupa Lo Mujhe Ae Dost Mujhe Gunaahon Ki Tarah

24 Aap Har Manzil Ko Mushkil Samjhate Hai, Hum Har Mushkil Ko Manzil Samjhate Hai, Bada Fark Hai Aapke Or Humare Nazriye Mein, Aap Dil Ko Dard Or Hum Dard Ko Dil Samjhate Hai.

25 Esa Na Tha Ki Aaine Ke Aage,Hamne Khud Ko Kabhi Savara Na Tha !! Esa Bhi Na Tha Ki Bhari Duniya Main,Mera Koi Sahara Na Tha !! Per Hum Jiske Ho Chuke He Dilo Jaan Se,Afsos Vo Hamara Na Tha !!

26 Na Milne Ki Khushi Na Bichhed Ne Ka Gam, Na Udaas Na Tanha Hai Hum. Kaise Kahe Kaise Hai Hum.... Bas Aapke Bina Akele Hai Hum....

27 Ansuo Se Palak Bhigo Leta Tha.., Yaad Teri Ati Thi To Ro Leta Thha..... Socha Tha Ke Bhoola Du Tujhey Mager, Har Baar Faisla Badal Deta Tha....

28 Wafa Karne Ka Wada To Hum Bhi Naa Kar Paayenge, Magar Yeh Jaroor Kahte Hai Ki Bewfai Naa Hogi Humse...

29 Yaad Karta Hoon Tumhe Yaad Aati Hi Nai Kaise Aayae Woh Cheez Jo Jaati Hi Nahi

30 Na Samjha Meri Mohobbat Ko Tune, Na Samjhi Gayi Teri Wafa Mujhse... Gila Na Kiyaa Tha Kabhi Bhi Humne, Ab Kyaa Karenge Shikaayat Tujhse...

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Tonic for the Mind - 31

Let your thoughts remain on love and let your actions stem from this love. There is no greater freedom than this realization of our true self.

- Dr Wayne W. Dyer

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

LOVE & LIFE..

This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE.

This Story is said by some women:----

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE..

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Joke: Officials of the Municipility

2 men are working for the municipality.

One of them is digging a hole and the other one fills it up again shortly after wards. They continue doing this for several times.

A pedestrian observes their work for a while and finally, he asks one of them: "Can you tell me why you dig holes and your colleague fills them shortly after wards again?"

One of the officials answers: "Normally there is a third colleague who plants the trees but unfortunately he is ill at the moment!"

Tonic for the Mind - 30

A cool thinker neither thinks positively, nor negatively. He is simply balanced in his thinking. He strikes a practical balance between the two, after having clearly understood and analyzed the pros and cons of a situation. Such complete thinkers turn out to be great decision-makers and efficient managers. Think Cool! Think Complete!
- Br. Sattvika Chaitanya

Saturday, July 12, 2008

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

“Even though you can not change time, realize it is time for you to change”



Tonic for the Mind - 29

Empower yourself with the Highest, Grandest and Happiest vision that motivates and inspires you. Higher the vision, the more you will draw the positive, vibrant and dynamic energies required to live and fulfill that dream.
- Zenyasi

Friday, July 11, 2008

Politeness...

During one of her daily classes a teacher trying to teach good manners, asked her students the following question:

"Michael, if you were on a date having dinner with a nice young lady, how would you tell her that you have to go to the bathroom?"

Michael said, "Just a minute I have to go pee."

The teacher responded by saying, "That would be rude and impolite.

What about you Peter, how would you say it?"

Peter said, "I am sorry, but I really need to go to the bathroom. I'll be right back."

"That's better, but it's still not very nice to say the word bathroom at the dinner table. And you, little Johnny, can you use your brain for once and show us your good manners?"

" I would say: Darling, may I please be excused for a moment? I have to shake hands with a very dear friend of mine, whom I hope you'll get to meet after dinner ."

The teacher fainted... ............ ........ .

Opinions - Watches..




"Opinions are like hand watches.
Everyone's watch shows different time from others.
But,
Everyone believes that their time is correct."

Thursday, July 10, 2008

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

“If I enjoy praise, it means I can be easily hurt by defamation.”



“Our aspirations are our possibilities.”

Muskurane Se Bhi Hota Hai Bayan Ghame Dil..

Muskurane Se Bhi Hota Hai Bayan Ghame Dil
Mujhe Rone Ki Bhi Adat Ho Yeh Zaroori To Nahi..

Kitabon Say Daleel Doon Ya Dil Ko Samney Rakhun
Woh Mujh Say Pooch Baithay Hain Mohabat Kis Ko Kehtay Hain


Gham Agar Aye Kabhi To Mujhe Karib Samajhna.
Hazaro Apno Mein Mujhe Bhi Thoda Aziz Samajhna.
De Sakun Muskan Tere Ansuon Ke Badle.
Apni Zindagi Mein Itna To Sharik Samajhna!

Kamzor Hain Woh Jo Chahte Hain Apne Mohabbat Ko Bhulana,
Naaz Kar Apne Mohabbat Par, Apne Dil Ko Na Rulana.

Bas Ab Dua Hai Ki Kisi Aur K Saath Aisa Na Ho
Kabhi Kisi Ke Liye Kisi Ka Dil Bekaraar Na Ho

Muj Sa Jahan Main Koi Nadan Bhi Na Ho
Kar K Jo Ishq Kahta Hai Nuqsan Bhi Na Ho

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

A Scorpion Moment - A Story with Moral

There was this Sadhu who saw a scorpion floundering around in the water. He decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the scorpion stung him. The man still tried to get the scorpion out of the water, but the scorpion stung him again.

Another man nearby told him to stop saving the scorpion that kept stinging him.

But the Sadhu said: "It is the nature of the scorpion to sting. It is my nature to love. Why should I give up my nature to love just because it is the nature of the scorpion to sting?"

Do not give up loving.
Do not give up your goodness.
Even if people around you sting.

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

"We are limited in the amount of help we can give to others. It is far better to help a soul come closer to God-than all help received."



"A goal to be the best is more important than a goal to be the biggest."

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

"The wealth of a rich man can be stolen or burnt, but the happiness and wisdom of the wise remain."



"Wisdom gives: A long, good life, riches, honors, pleasure, peace."

DIVORCE VS. MURDER

A nice, calm and respectable lady went into the pharmacy, walked up to the pharmacist, looked straight into his eyes, and said, "I would like to buy some cyanide."

The pharmacist asked, "Why in the world do you need cyanide?"

The lady replied, "I need it to poison my husband."

The pharmacist's eye got big and he exclaimed, "Lord have mercy! I can't give you cyanide to kill your husband. That's against the law! I'll lose my license!

They'll throw both of us in jail! All kinds of bad things will happen. Absolutely not! You CANNOT have any cyanide!"

The lady reached into her purse and pulled out a picture of her husband in bed with the pharmacist's wife.

The pharmacist looked at the picture and replied, "Well now, that's different. You didn't tell me you had a prescription. "

QUOTALBE QUOTES...

¨ People are always available to work in past tense.
¨ Opportunity always knocks at the least opportune moment.
¨ When you don't know what you are doing, do it neatly.
¨ Buy low and sell high.
¨ Logic is a systematic method of coming to the wrong conclusion with confidence.
¨ All great discoveries are made by mistake.
¨ A failure will not appear till a unit has passed final inspection.
¨ New systems generate new problems.
¨ The number of people in any working group tends to increase regardless of the amount to be done.
¨ If "pro" is the opposite of "con" then "Progress" is the opposite of "Congress'.
¨ By working faithfully 8 hours a day, you may eventually get to be a boss and work 12 hrs a day.
¨ The first of the management is that it exists.
¨ The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can take that you have got made.
¨ If a problem causes too many meetings, the meetings eventually become more important than the problem.
¨ The side that wins is not always the best side.
¨ Noting is illegal if hundred businessmen decide to do it.
¨ When all else fails, read the instructions.
¨ Any given program, when running, is obsolete.
¨ If you can't win shoot for a tie.
¨ No balls no blue chips.
¨ Measure twice because you can only cut once.

- Story With Moral – Worth Reading -

Once upon a time a very strong woodcutter ask for a job in a timber merchant, and he got it. The paid was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason, the woodcutter was determined to do his best.

His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work.The first day, the woodcutter brought 18 trees."Congratulations," the boss said. "Go on that way!" Very motivated for the boss’s words, the woodcutter try harder the next day, but he only could bring 15 trees. The third day he try even harder, but he only could bring 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing less and less trees.

"I must be losing my strength", the woodcutter thought. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.

"When was the last time you sharpened your axe?" the boss asked.

"Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees..."

TRUTH...

2 EYES ARE BEST FRIENDS. BOTH WILL BLINK TOGETHER, MOVE, CRY, SEE AND SLEEP TOGETHER BUT IF THEY SEE A GIRL. ONLY ONE WILL BLINK.
MORAL OF THE STORY: A GIRL CAN BREAK ANY RELATIONSHIP.

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Bas Ek Tera Ehsaas Hai...

Bas Ek Tera Ehsaas Hai, Jo Har Waqt Mere Sath Hai
Ek Teri Yaad Hai, Jo Din Raat Mujhe Tarpaati Hai
Ek Umeed Hai Tere Aane Ki, Apna Tujhe Banane Ki
Na Chain Hai Na Sukoon Hai, Ye Kaisa Mera Haal Hai
Raate Hogayi Hai Itni Lambi, Jo Kaate Nahi Katti
Na Bhook Hai Na Pyaas Hai, Na Koi Aas Hai Na Koi Paas Hai
Bas Ek Tera Ehsaas Hai, Jo Har Waqt Mere Sath Hai....

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

“The only definite thing about human beings is that they change.”


Monday, July 7, 2008

Santa ye scooty kab li? (( Joke -- (18 + ) ))

Harbhajan Singh ne apni premika se pucha
kya main tumhara pehla pyar hu,

Ladki Boli... Kar di na Sardaro wali baat..
SPINNER ko kabhi new ball milti hai....

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Bus Chali, Jhatka Laga,

1 Sarda, 1 Ladki par ja gira..

Ladki boli - Batmeej kya kar rahe ho?

Sardar Bola - Ji Punjab University se B.Com kar raha hu...

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Judge - Why did you attack that young man?

Old Lady - He grabbed me, took my clothes off,
threw me on the bed & shouted APRIL FOOL..

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Santa ye scooty kab li?

Banta kal raat ek ladki mujhe scooty
par bahut durr le gaye, sare kapade utar
ke boli jo chahiye le lo, main scooty
le aaya, kapado ka kya karta main.......

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Tonic for the Mind - 28

Detachment is a quality of attention; by letting go of your attachments, you are available to participate more fully in the moment. The focus for the present will help you to be aware of the right choices required to achieve your chosen goals.

- Zenyasi

Tonic for the Mind - 27

Life is an act of listening. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your listening. In any given moment, you are either listening to the voice of fear (your ego), or the voice of love (your unconditioned Self). Fear always leads to more fear. Love always leads to more love. Learning to switch off the voice of fear is an art. What is unhelpful is to attack fear, resist fear, or defend against fear. One answer is simply to focus on love, and to value love more than fear. The more you value love, the less fear you will hear.

- Dr Robert Holden

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

“If a person hides his feelings, is it because there is something wrong with his feeling?”



“Once you get used to doing nothing, you find that there is no time left to become busy.”

Behte hoye aansoo tera saath maangte hai..

Behte hoye aansoo tera saath maangte hai
meri ye khali bahe tera haath maangte hai
gamo ke saaye kidher hum jaye
kaisi hai ye tanhayi jo mehfil main sataye
mere khamosh arman teri mulaqaat maangte hai
behte hoye aansoo tera saath maangte hai
aasma hai zamee hai dikhtey sabhi hai
jise dhonde aankhe wo mere sath nahi hai
dil ki ye duwaye saath tere din raat maangte hai
akele hum jiye ja rahe hai
saas kaise liye jaa rahe hai
hayera zindagi ke sawal ye jine ki ejazat maangte hai

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Hamko kyon tumne bhula diya..

Hamko kyon tumne bhula diya
Dekhe hansi hontho pe
Phir kyon itna rula diya

Jin hatho ka tha sahara
Unhone hee duba diya
Hamko chhod majdhaar
Khud sahil pe gaya

Mere gum kee ye daasta
Sunta hai zameen ashmma
Ek na sune wahi
Jiske liye jita hoon yahana

Hamko mila ye kya sila
bhulyaa jinke liye sabko
Unhone hee hamko kyon bhula diya

Dard hai dil main
Ankho main anshoo mere
Din ke ujale main
ab bhee sapne dekhoon tere

Na hai ab koi manjil
Mile na kohi raste
Lagta hai jese ye jindgi
Mili hame Gum ke waste

Bhula esa kyon diya
Jee na paaye chahkar bhi
Hum to tumko bhula na paayenge
shayad ab to markar bhi...

Friday, July 4, 2008

Duniya ke rang humne dekhe hai..

Duniya ke rang humne dekhe hain,
Duniya ke dhang humne dekhe hain,
Rishte badalte huye hamne dekhe hain,
Rishte tutte huye humne dekhe hain.

Dikhawe ka jhoota mukhota pahne,
Milte hain bar bar humse aise,
Matlabi log gale milte hain jaise,
Peeth me khanjar chubhote huye humne dekhe hain.

Maayusi hoti hai jab apna koi dil tode,
Honth chup, aankh nam, sab sunte rahe.
Fir kyun dil bechain udas hai aaj,
Gum ke andhero me khote huye humne dekhe hain.

Is duniya mein sachhe Insaan kaha milte hain,
Jin par Qurbaan hone ko dil karta hai,
Ek taraf maayusi, dusri taraf khushi hai,
Chehra to bohat door, hume to sirf parchhai nazar aata hai...

Thursday, July 3, 2008

- Quote / Thought For The Day -

“Silence is not only the absence of sound but also stillness of the mind.”



“A creative attitude is the fuel of progress and growth.”

Life - A good story..

A boat docked in a tiny Goan village. A tourist from Mumbai complimented the Goan fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the fisherman.

"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the Mumbaite.

The Goan fisherman explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The Mumbaite asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"
"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, play guitar, sing a few songs... I have a full life."

The Mumbaite interrupted, "I have an MBA from IIM-A, and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?" asked the Goan.

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Panjim, or even Mumbai. From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?" asked the Goan.

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years," replied the Mumbaite.

"And after that?"

"Afterwards? Well my Friend, That's when it gets really interesting," chuckled the Mumbaite, "When your business gets really big, you can start selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the Goan.

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings doing what you like with your buddies."

"With all due respect sir, but that's exactly what I am doing now. So what's the point wasting 25 years?" asked the Goan.

And the moral of the story is? Know where you're going in life. You may already be there.
Life in the present world is indeed a rat race. Many who have qualifications from reputed universities too do not know where they are going in life.
Give it a serious thought, and please don't forget to take charge of your health.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Choice Or Chance

The choices you make today will determine your future.When you make a decision, ask yourself, "Where is this choice going to lead me? How will it affect my life tomorrow, next week, next month, years from now?"

Consider your life purpose, your goals, your direction, and your focus in the choices you make. Learn from your past choices. Some of them worked for you, some of them worked against you.Which choices will enable you to become the person you want to be?

You can spend your time doing the things that will bring you closer to your goals, or you can spend your time seeking immediate comfort and gratification.

The choice is up to you, and your choices will decide your future. A successful and fulfilled life is no more difficult than a life that is unsuccessful and unfulfilled. The people that are successful in life are not luckier than you, they are not more intelligent than you, they are not more trained than you. They are successful because they have chosen to do the things that will make them successful. Not just in the big decisions, but also the small every day, moment to moment decisions that make up living.

Life is made up of choices, not chances. Are you going to let chance circumstances rule your life, or are you going to make your own choices?

Which choices are you making today to decide your future?

Useless Life

A farmer got so old that he could not work the fields anymore. So he would spend the day just sitting on the porch. His son, still working the farm, would look up from time to time and see his father sitting there. "He's of no use any more," the son thought to himself, "he doesn't do anything!"

One day the son got so frustrated by this, that he built a wood coffin, dragged it over to the porch, and told his father to get in. Without saying anything, the father climbed inside.

After closing the lid, the son dragged the coffin to the edge of the farm where there was a high cliff. As he approached the drop, he heard a light tapping on the lid from inside the coffin. He opened it up. Still lying there peacefully, the father looked up at his son. "I know you are going to throw me over the cliff, but before you do, may I suggest something?" "What is it?" replied the son. "Throw me over the cliff, if you like," said the father, "but save this good wood coffin. Your children might need to use it."

HUMOR ....to brighten your day!..

What's the difference between people
who pray in church and those who
pray in casinos?
The ones in the casinos are serious.
When I was young I used to pray for a bike,
then I realized that God doesn't work that way,
so I stole a bike and prayed for forgiveness.
A little boy went up to his father and asked :
" Dad, where did all of my intelligence come from ? "
His father replied :
" Well, son, you must have gotten it from your mother,
because I still have mine. "
Paul's teacher sent a note home to his mother, saying :
"Paul seems to be a very bright boy,
but spends too much of his time thinking about girls. "
The mother wrote back the next day :
" If you find a solution, please advise.
I have the same problem with his father ! "

Why do I have tears in my eyes...



Ask me how many times my heart has been broken
and I will tell you to look in the sky and count the stars...

Days continue to pass, stars continue to shine.
Why do I have tears in my eyes today when she was NEVER mine?

Tonic for the Mind - 26

Spirituality does not lie in any particular action. It lies in being what you are. It is 'Being', and remaining rooted in that 'Being'. Then whatever you do becomes spirituality. Spirituality is the vision of the oneness of all beings. You are one with all and there is no one different from you, or separate from you. Understanding and practicing the vision of oneness, you learn to look at your life as a whole and live a whole life.

- Swami Tejomayananda

Jidhar bhi dekhtaa hoon..

Jidhar bhi dekhtaa hoon tanhaai nazar aati hai
aapke intzaar mein har shaam guzar jaati hai

main kaise karun gilaa dil ke zakhmon se huzoor
aansu chhalakte hain meri soorat nikhar jaati hai

tod diye hain maine apne ghar ke saare aayine
meri rooh mera hi chehraa dekh ke darr jaati hai

ro ke halke ho lete hain zara se teri yaad mein...
zara si na-muraadon ki tabiyaat sudhar jaati hai

asar karti yakeenan gar choo jaati unke dil ko lekin
afsos ke aah meri fizaaon hi mein bikhar jaati hai

maikade mein jab bhi zikr aata hai tere naam ka
shaam ki pee hui sar-e-shaam hi utar jaati hai

kabhi aa ke mere zakhmon se muqaabilaa to kar
ae khushi tu moonh chhuppaa ke kidhar jaati hai

tuze inhi kaanton pe chal ke jaana hoga
unke ghar ko bas yahi aik rehguzar jaati hai......

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

'Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?'

There is a Chinese story of an old farmer who had an old horse for tilling his fields. One day the horse escaped into the hills and, when all the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, 'Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?'

A week later the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, 'Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?'

Then, when the farmer's son was attempted to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, 'Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?'

Some weeks later the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg they let him off. Now was that good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?

So what is happening in your life, don't always assume that as good or bad..
One day I decided to quit.... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. ...

I wanted to quit my life.I went to the woods to have one last talk with God."God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"

His answer surprised me...

"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied.

"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.I gave them light. I gave them water.The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo". He said. "In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit." He said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 Feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle."

He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots. I Would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don't compare yourself to others."He said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the Fern, yet, they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come, "God said to me." You will rise high!"
"How high should I rise?" I asked. "How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.

"As high as it can?" I questioned."Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."
I left the forest and brought back this story. I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you...

I Cant Get You out of My head..

I Cant Get You out of My head
No Matter how i try
I Still love You
Even when you make me Cry,

I want You in my Arms
I want you to be Mine
But You don't want me Now
You says it's Not our Time,

Relationships are hard Enough
But love makes them even Worse
Love Makes it hard to give Up
Love is a curse,

I Hate the fact I love You
And that i cant Get You out of My Mind
I hate that every time i think of You
My heart flutters and My eyes Cry,

I don't understand how you do this to Me
How You make Me want to Die
How I dream about you Every Night,

I 'd rather Cry and mope and Whine
Than call You to get things Straight
Because somewhere in my Heart
I know Its already Too Late ..

When I'm with you...

When I'm with you,
eternity is a step away,
my love continues to grow,
with each passing day.

This treasure of love,
I cherish within my soul,
how much I love you...
you'll never really know.

You bring a joy to my heart,
I've never felt before,
with each touch of your hand,
I love you more and more.

Whenever we say goodbye,
whenever we part,
know I hold you dearly,
deep inside my heart.

So these seven words,
I pray you hold true,
"Forever And Always,
I Will Love You."